Winning through Giving - Give Intelligently to Create a Better Business, Family and Marriage
by Bruce Painter
Many people say that we should give freely to others. However, giving freely can cause great problems in some situations. For example, many parents give freely to their kids and don’t require them to give back. These kids tend to become spoiled, dependent, difficult to handle, and have a lesser chance to succeed in life. We need to focus on giving intelligently. Then we can give freely. Here are 5 tips to help us give intelligently.
Tip 1 - Give some thought and planning about the recipient to whom you are going to give.
Many people think that it’s all about giving freely. No! Give Intelligently. When you give intelligently, you choose the people you will give freely.
You probably would not want to give to the criminals who prey upon people. However, there are certain heroic people who give wholeheartedly through their volunteer work in prisons.
One such example is a friend of mine who gives unrestrainedly to people who have a criminal past. He is a trainer who works with the prison population. He gets very good results in helping prisoners to change their thinking to a positive and constructive mindset. With this new mindset, they are more likely to have a more constructive life while they are still in prison and also when they get out in the world again.
You may also want to give freely to those who value what you have to offer. It can be upsetting to give to someone who does not really value what you give. This is especially true in families in which parents give too much to their children - a practice that is destructive to the children’s future. Spoiled children take parents for granted and typically do not value what is given to them.
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